My answer to a question about adoption on Quora: Q: Why is having biological children usually a couple's first choice, rather than adopting a newborn? My Answer: Because the adoption process is: Potentially very long & uncertain. You might not…
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Quora: Options for adopting from abroad as a single woman
I answered the following question on international adoption on Quora: Q: I'm a single female in my 40s, and would like to adopt a child internationally. Which countries should I be considering? I'm based in UK, but for various reasons…
Quora: A parent's love for adoptive children vs biological children
Originally posted to Quora. The original question was "Do parents love biological children more than adopted children?" Someone who was a biological father without adopted children, who was therefore speculating, posted: ...I think that we derive a certain…
Quora: How should paternity leave be arranged for a gay man with an adopted child?
Orignally posted to Quora. Q: How should paternity leave be arranged for a gay man with an adopted child? Should he get paternity leave, which is usually shorter, or maternity leave? If he gets maternity leave, doesn't this suggest he…
Quora: If you are an adoptive parent, do you celebrate your child's 'gotcha day'?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: If you are an adoptive parent, do you celebrate your child's 'gotcha day'or 'homecoming day'? If yes, how do you do it? My Answer: We don't. The main reason is that, for both…
Quora: What illnesses may disqualify someone from adopting a child internationally?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: What illnesses may disqualify someone from adopting a child internationally? If one of parents has a history of cancer and doctors said < 1% of its coming back, may the family apply to…
Quora: Does the American government stimulate the adoption of foreign children with disabilities?
My answer to a question originally published on Quora. Q: Why does the American government stimulate the adoption of foreign children with disabilities? What's the use of these children for the country's welfare and future? My Answer: I'll start off…
Quora: What advice would you give to prospective adoptive parents?
My answer, originally posted to Quora. Q: If there was one (or more) piece of advice you could give to prospective adoptive parents what would it be? We are thinking of adopting one or more children internationally (currently have zero)…
Quora: Is it selfish to use IVF, IUI, or other artificial forms of reproduction?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Infertility: Do you think that using IVF, IUI, or other artificial forms of reproduction is selfish? Some people feel that infertile couples who turn to artificial methods of reproduction are selfish because there…
Quora: What are your feelings towards your adopted child?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: What are your feelings towards your adopted child? My Answer Words fail to describe how deeply I love my two adopted children. While I have no biological children to compare them too, I…
Quora: How does it feel to adopt a child of a different race from you?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: How does it feel to adopt a child of a different race from you? What should you be aware of? I am young, gay and though not close to the decision whether to…
Quora: Why do so few African-American children get adopted?

My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Why do so few African-American children get adopted? My sister has been looking to adopt for a while now so we've been talking about adoption in general for some time. Over several conversations…
Quora: Why is it so difficult (time, money, etc.) to adopt a child?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Why is it so difficult (time, money, etc.) to adopt a child? It seems like there are plenty of people in the world that would like to adopt a child and plenty of…
Quora: Do people in other countries adopt American children?
My answer, originally posted on Quora. My Answer Yes, but there is some debate about how many are adopted each year. It is probably in the 100s, and the leading foreign adopter of American children is Canada. Source: Overseas adoptions…
Quora: Should you tell your adopted child that he/she is adopted?
My answer to this Quora question was originally published on 10/16/2013. My Answer: Yes, you should tell your child. Because he or she WILL definitely one day find out. Read the other answers for insight into how devastating…
Quora: Why do parents adopt children from foreign countries rather than from their own country?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q:Why do parents adopt children from foreign countries rather than from their own country? Foreign adoptions are more expensive, the process is more time consuming, and switching to a new language and culture…
Quora: Can an adult be legally adopted?
My answer, originally posted to Quora My Answer I don't know about other countries, but yes, an adult can be legally adopted in many states in the USA, including California. The criteria for allowing adult adoption varies state to state.…
Quora: How do gay male parents substitute for breast-feeding for their babies?
My answer, originally published on Quora. My Answer They do it the way ANY adoptive parent -- male or female, gay or straight - does it: usually -bottle-feeding with formula. Entire generations of kids grew up healthy on just formula,…