My answer, originally posted to Quora. Q: If there was one (or more) piece of advice you could give to prospective adoptive parents what would it be? We are thinking of adopting one or more children internationally (currently have zero)…
Quora: Is it more expensive to have twins or two single pregnancies?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: From a purely financial standpoint is it more expensive to have twins? Or two single pregnancies 1-2 years apart? Keeping in mind maternity leave, nursery costs, furniture / equipment to buy and economies of…
Quora: What level of coding experience should a good product manager have?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: What level of coding experience should a good product manager have? My Answer Caveat: I'm assuming we are talking about software products. In THEORY, actual coding experience should be irrelevant to the hiring…
Quora: Is it selfish to use IVF, IUI, or other artificial forms of reproduction?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Infertility: Do you think that using IVF, IUI, or other artificial forms of reproduction is selfish? Some people feel that infertile couples who turn to artificial methods of reproduction are selfish because there…
To James: You're becoming a very sweet boy
Dear James (age 3.5), You are a very sweet young boy, and I am so touched by how much well you care for others and help them when they need you. Over the weekend, you and Kian were playing…
The day after the last day of 2nd grade (Kian)
Dear Kian, Thursday was the last day of 2nd grade for you, so we spent Friday together doing "special time." First, you played with James a little bit in the morning. Then we took him to daycare so…
Quora: What are your feelings towards your adopted child?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: What are your feelings towards your adopted child? My Answer Words fail to describe how deeply I love my two adopted children. While I have no biological children to compare them too, I…
Buzz Lightyear Returns
What a goober! (James saw a photo of Kian at age 4 dressed up in this costume, and begged for me to look for it so he could dress up as Buzz Lightyear too....)…
The Brain of a Sales Rep - A Visual Guide
Behold, a visual guide to the inside of a Sales Rep's brain! Or more specifically, an Enterprise Software Sales Droid's brain, as viewed from Product Management. Please do not show to any sales people unless you are sure they have…
My Kids: Another Quote from James
“My super powers are super hug powers, hot lava, corn, peas, and carrots.” -- James on 5/14/2014, age 3.10…
Growing Pains (for Mom)
Today is the first day (that I remember, anyway) when I realized how grownup Kian already is at age 7.5. I fondly remember when he was 4 or so, and we were so close: best buddies. I could do…
My Kids: A Quote from James
Give me the world’s biggest hug. Bigger than Ironman, Superman, the Green Lantern, and Batman can fly. --James on 4/21/2014, age 3.9…
The Value of an MBA in Product Management
A question from a reader: Q: Is an MBA necessary to advance in Product Management to the Senior level, Director level, or beyond? Or can one compensate for the lack of a Masters with strong analytics and high-level strategy and…
Why you need a Product Strategy (even if your boss doesn't care)
I read too many blogs that say "ALL product managers should do X". Having worked with so many companies, I can usually think of plenty of cases where it makes sense to break the "rule." But…
Quora: Can you push out a founder before stock is issued?
*Question was originally posted to Quora on 2 Mar 2014. As a startup, if no ownership shares have been issued and no documents have been signed by any founder yet, but a lawyer has incorporated the business and drafted the…
What happens when you write PRDs in dentists' waiting rooms
Don't know about you, but I'd read it....…
Where to get information about competitors
Don't just look at your competition's website and read a few articles. For a fuller view, try these information sources: The competitor's website -- including hidden pages, all images, and any uploaded documents (PDF, DOC, XLS) Former & current customers…
Common Product Management Screw-ups That Strike Even the Experienced
Acting like a Requirements Monkey. Punting on strategy. Not focusing on a particular target market. Not meeting with enough customers often enough. Not meeting with prospects and non-customers (aka potentials) often enough. Not truly understanding the real problems faced by…
Quora: How does it feel to adopt a child of a different race from you?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: How does it feel to adopt a child of a different race from you? What should you be aware of? I am young, gay and though not close to the decision whether to…
Market interviews GONE BAD (ooh, with comics!)
Ever wonder why so many startup entrepreneurs put out misguided and doomed products, even after attempting to take four steps toward an epiphany and reading the "Lean Startup"? Face Palm Alas, I have witnessed similar "attempts"…
The Economics: NoSQL vs "New SQL" vs Relational Databases
Economics are a big deal when deciding whether to go with a NoSQL, NewSQL, MPP DBMS, or traditional RDBMS. Many of the products (in all four of these categories) claim that economics are on their side, because either… Their products…
Quora: Why do so few African-American children get adopted?

My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Why do so few African-American children get adopted? My sister has been looking to adopt for a while now so we've been talking about adoption in general for some time. Over several conversations…
Quora: Why is it so difficult (time, money, etc.) to adopt a child?
My answer, originally published on Quora. Q: Why is it so difficult (time, money, etc.) to adopt a child? It seems like there are plenty of people in the world that would like to adopt a child and plenty of…
Quora: Do people in other countries adopt American children?
My answer, originally posted on Quora. My Answer Yes, but there is some debate about how many are adopted each year. It is probably in the 100s, and the leading foreign adopter of American children is Canada. Source: Overseas adoptions…
Quora: On nannies, stay-at-home parents & feminism
My comments on an answer to a Quora question. Original Question: Motherhood: Are stay at home moms/dads who have a full-time nanny lazy? One person who answered this question basically said YES for the following reasons. "This trend…