Quora: How do gay male parents substitute for breast-feeding for their babies?
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They do it the way ANY adoptive parent -- male or female, gay or straight -- does it: usually bottle-feeding with formula.
Entire generations of kids grew up healthy on just formula, and today formula more closely resembles breast milk than at any time before. My kids -- both adopted -- were exclusively formula-fed until 6 months of age and they are healthy, developmentally on-target (or ahead of target), properly bonded, etc.
Some adoptive parents also supplement formula with breast milk obtained from a regulated donor milk bank (http://www.hmbana.org/), from private sellers of breast milk (example: http://www.onlythebreast.com/ or craigslist), or by seeking donations from friends and family.